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"Turbo-T"

V6 on steroids
Some of you may have known my wife was due to give birth to our 2nd child, a baby boy. I usually don't type these types of posts up as I'd rather deal with personal issues myself but in fairness to all I'll talk...I'll try to make a long sad story short. Wife started having contractions Wed. night but was only 4 cm so she was sent home. (they want you to be 5 cm before they'll work w/you) The contractions became more intense Thurs. afternoon so we went back to the ER...she was almost 5 cm and they decided to send her to the maternity ward. The baby had a good heart beat of 160. Later in the evening they put in the epidural and pitocin. A few hours elapsed. Then as my wife's contractions got more intense the baby's heart beat would drop down to 40, then back up to 100 then back to 40-50ish range. Sometime after 2:00 AM CST they sent my wife to the OR while I waited outside. My son was born this morning at 2:21 AM CST via an emergency c section without a heart beat. They tried to revive him with a tube down his throat and performing chest compressions but at 2:51 AM CST he was pronounced dead. We do not know why he died. He was said to be a healthy boy and none of the docs can give us an answer. We're having an autopsy done and also we hare going to allow him to be an organ donor for other babies. Let me tell you this is the hardest thing I've ever faced. I've lost the will to do much of anything as I sit and grieve. I wonder why my wife and I were so wrongfully cheated of our son. It's been all I can do to not break down this entire day. As a result I've not slept, have not eaten much and just have been really low. If any of you have ever lost a child at such a young age you know where I'm coming from. The sad part is he never got a chance at life. He was a really beautiful boy, with a head full of hair and just as precious as can be. We got a few pics of us holding him and a professional photographer has also shot some photos for us as a memorial. After he died I wanted to go home and get my 2.5 year old daughter out of bed and hold her. When I came home the next morning to pick up my niece who has been babysitting our daughter thru this, my daughter wanted me to pick her up and hold her...buddy if I didn't spend the next 25 minutes holding her. Please go hug your children and give them all the love you can. Sorry about this. I need to take a break from here and grieve with my family and get everything settled down. I'll be back as soon as I can get myself together. Thankfully my family, friends of my wife and my whole squadron are helping us out.
 

Boost231

What's An Intercooler
Staff member
I am truly sorry for your loss. My Prayers are with you and your family.

I really dont know what to say. I just read in another post my friend Scott in arizona Died today
 

SPOOLFOOL2

Fiberglass bumper filler dude. (949) 433-1257
Staff member
Very sorry to hear this. Prayers sent to you and family.

God bless.

Mike Barnard
 

Bruce Urie

The Ventures,CCR forever!
I am so sorry to hear of your loss....I just can't imagine what you and your wife must be going through.....take your time, grieve and pray to the Lord....I will ask Him to comfort you and your wife. Again, I'm so sorry.

Bruce '87 Grand National
 

Turbo38V6

Member
Man, I am attempting to put some words together but am truly speechless. Prayers are with you and the family. I'm ready to shed a tear.
 

The Radius Kid

Active Member
Some of you may have known my wife was due to give birth to our 2nd child, a baby boy. I usually don't type these types of posts up as I'd rather deal with personal issues myself but in fairness to all I'll talk...I'll try to make a long sad story short. Wife started having contractions Wed. night but was only 4 cm so she was sent home. (they want you to be 5 cm before they'll work w/you) The contractions became more intense Thurs. afternoon so we went back to the ER...she was almost 5 cm and they decided to send her to the maternity ward. The baby had a good heart beat of 160. Later in the evening they put in the epidural and pitocin. A few hours elapsed. Then as my wife's contractions got more intense the baby's heart beat would drop down to 40, then back up to 100 then back to 40-50ish range. Sometime after 2:00 AM CST they sent my wife to the OR while I waited outside. My son was born this morning at 2:21 AM CST via an emergency c section without a heart beat. They tried to revive him with a tube down his throat and performing chest compressions but at 2:51 AM CST he was pronounced dead. We do not know why he died. He was said to be a healthy boy and none of the docs can give us an answer. We're having an autopsy done and also we hare going to allow him to be an organ donor for other babies. Let me tell you this is the hardest thing I've ever faced. I've lost the will to do much of anything as I sit and grieve. I wonder why my wife and I were so wrongfully cheated of our son. It's been all I can do to not break down this entire day. As a result I've not slept, have not eaten much and just have been really low. If any of you have ever lost a child at such a young age you know where I'm coming from. The sad part is he never got a chance at life. He was a really beautiful boy, with a head full of hair and just as precious as can be. We got a few pics of us holding him and a professional photographer has also shot some photos for us as a memorial. After he died I wanted to go home and get my 2.5 year old daughter out of bed and hold her. When I came home the next morning to pick up my niece who has been babysitting our daughter thru this, my daughter wanted me to pick her up and hold her...buddy if I didn't spend the next 25 minutes holding her. Please go hug your children and give them all the love you can. Sorry about this. I need to take a break from here and grieve with my family and get everything settled down. I'll be back as soon as I can get myself together. Thankfully my family, friends of my wife and my whole squadron are helping us out.


What do you say to someone at a time like this?
Take your time.
It sounds like God had other plans for your little guy.
He better look after him or he's going to have to deal with a bunch of angry Buick owners one day.
God rest and God speed his little soul.
He just got another Angel.:(
 
time

I dont know what to say but felt I had to say something dont give up on GOD and eachother my prays go out to you give it time my friend
 

87granny

Active Member
Sad to hear this prayers and condolences to you and your family, try to keep your head up God works in mysterious ways
 
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