How did(or didn't) convince your wife or how can I convince mine?

[horndog]

I would like to purchase a TR, and this would be my first.
I did look at one on Sunday, and was not only quite nice the current owner was quite supportive and very helpful ( you know who you are!)

Anyways, instead of just buying it and bringing it home, (forgive and forget right? doesn't work with my wife) I decided to get her engaged on buying it. But, she does not see the "value" in it.


What excuses or method of convincing, if any, did you use?
Just going out and buying it now with her on the fence, would be a marriage no-no

I do encourage creative methods and stories, and defying her now and buying it would be BAAD!

 

[rev. 3:11]

Mine is actually titled in my wife's name...
Have you had her test-drive it? (Balls-out, if the current owner will let you)
Maybe let them talk to her (sometimes the same words from someone else does wonders)
Make the entire experience fun & positive & do it together; make it an event, a "thing" ...
just my $.02

D

 

[rmar]

You already missed your window....
Women are like carpet........? If you laid it right the first time, you can walk on it for the next 20 yrs....

O and when you do get it. ( I have confidence in ya ) have all new parts sent to a trusted friends address.
And I say trusted or it could be used against you.

If you have any local car clubs see if they do cruises... Where they hit a couple burger and malt shops and go with them. She will see how much fun it is. Do not take her all day to a car show....repeat do not take her all day to a car show.

 

[horndog]

I think this would help and may help be more comfortable, but she does not care for cars in that light.
Even though she liked her mildly tweaked 2004 Passat Wagon with the 1.8T
She does not not like that it has 2 door, she would prefer 4 doors as we have 3 small children: 6, 2, 3 mos.

Mine is actually titled in my wife's name...
Have you had her test-drive it? (Balls-out, if the current owner will let you)
Maybe let them talk to her (sometimes the same words from someone else does wonders)
Make the entire experience fun & positive & do it together; make it an event, a "thing" ...
just my $.02

D

 

[ZNix]

I think this would help and may help be more comfortable, but she does not care for cars in that light.
Even though she liked her mildly tweaked 2004 Passat Wagon with the 1.8T
She does not not like that it has 2 door, she would prefer 4 doors as we have 3 small children: 6, 2, 3 mos.

Back seats can be used with child seats.. As well as the front (no air bag). I've had one in there myself, and no it was not my child's.. I don't have any children lol.

 

[rev. 3:11]

Showed mine how to do a burn-out... that was all she wrote
its not a "car" its a "CAR"
this is a similar situation:
I teach handgun classes, & I get some folks (gals usually) who are very squeamish
about pistols... but as soon as they actually shoot one, & realize that what they see & hear on TV is (usually) BS, its a game-changer.
I usually get this same reaction:
within a few shots they settle in & actually hit the bulls-eye
they look at the target, they look at the pistol, they look back at the target
they set the pistol down
they turn & look at me
& they have the BIGGEST sh!teatin' grin on their face...
then they get it
Make it fun, make it family
We see ours as an heirloom, a hobby.
Finding a local week-end get together is a GREAT idea, even before you buy it
they are for the most part very family friendly
lets the wife see its not just the boys hangin' out, its families

D

 

[horndog]

One of the issues that she does not seem to want to be involved as of now, but I can kind of seeing her becoming involved after the fact.

 

[salvageV6]

With three young kids and a wife get a used Volvo wagon, it has decent safety features.

Save up your own non-essential household money and pay cash when you have enough.

Stealing a meal a day in food from the wife would help in more ways than one.

 

[dr_frankenstein]

id be super forward and tell her this is something you really really want and would like to make it a personal investment.

she should respect that........ right?

if i try to beat around the bush and schmooze my wife into soemthing.... she instantly becomes suspicious of alterior motives and closes up like a clam out of water.

 

[groumoutis]

Does any of her friends husbands have cars? If so get that woman to help. Either that or take her on the power tour in your family car. The tour is one of the most amazing things you can experience. My kids love to go to a different hotel every night and swim in the pool. I get enjoyment of seeing all the cars and hanging out with all the car guys like me. Your wife will enjoy meeting all the new people and seeing the sights. It is a family vacation. The company you book it through is even called family events.

I have a car seat in the back of my Buick! Find out what she hates and tell her either you could do that or buy a Buick! My wife hates the car but she knows it is either the Buick or a motorcycle. She hates motorcycles more than the Buick. If I want to go golfing I always as her if she wants to have sex or me go golfing. She usually reminds me to take the umbrella cause it could rain.


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[charlief1]

Some people just aren't car people and you can never convince them. If it's a financial thing then show her the difference between what a classic car brings versus the depreciation of a current model. To some degree these cars are an investment but no car is a good investment. Now saying that, I bought my mess of a car for $500 and am still working on it. When I bought it NADA listed it at about 11K for a perfect version. Now that's up to 14K and Haggerty shows 19K. That may not sound like a lot but I've done a lot of work to repair the car so far and have more to do.

What may get her interested is get her to some car shows and cruises so she can see what is going on. Seeing the way people are treated and behave around others may change her mind to some degree since most true "car" people are willing to talk and explain why they do what they do. She may be seeing this from the perspective of "just an old car" rather than a classic. Maybe compare the car to an antique piece of furniture so she can get a better idea.

 

[turbofrank]

Wait until the kids are grown with three kids and her not liking car your going to hear it sooner or later( if it wasn't for the car).

 

[rmar]

Another possible angle is believe it or not up till now a corvette is the cheapest car is ever owned. And I've had quit a few different cars over the years...what I'm getting at is not exactly appreciation but the lack of depreciation. If you buy a decient car and don't trash it you should be able to drive it free. As compared with a new car that depreciates down to near 0. Plus the kids would love it and the automotive repair angle for them to help could be a plus.

 

[626gn]

You already missed your window....
Women are like carpet........? If you laid it right the first time, you can walk on it for the next 20 yrs....

Sorry for the hijack but this quote is classic rmar. Someone should start a thread with his greatest hits. I'm sure there are lots by now. LMAO!

 

[horndog]

266gn, that was pretty funny, i fell out of my chair.

Update: wife says, she doesn't agree if it causes a financial strain...

 

[motrhed87]

I have 3 girls (12,10 & 6 yrs old) and they absolutley love driving in the GN with the T-tops off. They always ask me to hit the gas cause the say its like riding a roller coaster. Tell the wife it will help you bond with the kids

 

[lrayzer]

The first time my wife saw my new GN was when it rolled off the trailer at the dealer, she married a gear head, I did not and will not ask permission for cars or parts, but it never comes out of the family budget.
4 kids, two houses and ten cars later......Did I mention she really wanted that "valuable buick" in divorce court 25 years later, she did not get it....

You are destined to drive a minivan at this rate.....

 

[Rich Gio]

Make the entire experience fun & positive & do it together; make it an event, a "thing" ...
just my $.02

D

Do this! Maybe go to a cruise night together. My wife has a 2012 Dodge Superbee (My car is still faster...by design). We go to a lot of shows together. Heck, we even go to the drag strip a few times a year and do some head to head runs! You may have to get her one too... hmm "his and hers" Turbo Buicks?!

 

[horndog]

The first time my wife saw my new GN was when it rolled off the trailer at the dealer, she married a gear head, I did not and will not ask permission for cars or parts, but it never comes out of the family budget.
4 kids, two houses and ten cars later......Did I mention she really wanted that "valuable buick" in divorce court 25 years later, she did not get it....

You are destined to drive a minivan at this rate.....

She has a 2013 Toyota Sienna XLE

 

[horndog]

Honestly, I think she will enjoy the car. She is just extremely cautious with finances, which is rightfully so.