I opened this yesterday and have thought about you and your wife for the last 24 hrs. A co worker and friend of mine had lost his 16 year old son to a brain hemorrhage months ago. I would like to remind you that you are not alone. There are many people out there that have lost children. Most in very bad circumstances. It is not the way it is supposed to be but God does allow it to happen. His ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9) and a lot of times we don't understand them or Him. This is where faith has to come in. You should really try to find a grief group as suggested or a group of people that have lost children. You must remember that it is a spiritual battle more than a physical one. Our adversary wants us to think that we have no future. That we are alone, and isolated and God is mad at us. When we are isolated we lose sense of reality and can spiral down quickly (Proverbs 18:1).
Blaming yourself for what happened is very common as my friend blamed himself for his son's death even though he had nothing to do with it or no control over it. You have to realize that there are only 2 possible people that could pay for sin; Jesus or the sinner. Children DO NOT pay for their father's sin. Ezekiel 18:20-A son won’t suffer punishment for the father’s iniquity, and a father won’t suffer punishment for the son’s iniquity. The righteousness of the righteous person will be on him, and the wickedness of the wicked person will be on him. Your statement that you are not perfect and have not lived the most noble life is true but that doesn't mean you had anything to do with his death. If you really think about it Jesus had no sin. No imputed sin or committed a sin. He was brutally killed. He was also hated by many. Who's sin was He paying for then? See it doesn't work out that way Biblically. Jesus was perfect and did live the most noble life, and was still murdered. Do other people suffer consequences for sin? Absolutely. But you must remember that if you are committed to Christ that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus (Roman 8:1). He paid all of your sin debt. And your son's. That is why the last word He said on the cross was It is finished (John 19:30). The Greek comes from tetelstai which is an accounting term meaning paid in full. Our sin debt was paid in full by His death. We are truly free now. That is what Jesus meant in John 8:32. I prayed for you last night when I read this post and will continue to.
And one last thing I would like to encourage you with is that God knows what it feels like to lose a son also. He knows how you feel and your pain. Go to Him and ask Him for rest (Matt 11:28-30).
Blaming yourself for what happened is very common as my friend blamed himself for his son's death even though he had nothing to do with it or no control over it. You have to realize that there are only 2 possible people that could pay for sin; Jesus or the sinner. Children DO NOT pay for their father's sin. Ezekiel 18:20-A son won’t suffer punishment for the father’s iniquity, and a father won’t suffer punishment for the son’s iniquity. The righteousness of the righteous person will be on him, and the wickedness of the wicked person will be on him. Your statement that you are not perfect and have not lived the most noble life is true but that doesn't mean you had anything to do with his death. If you really think about it Jesus had no sin. No imputed sin or committed a sin. He was brutally killed. He was also hated by many. Who's sin was He paying for then? See it doesn't work out that way Biblically. Jesus was perfect and did live the most noble life, and was still murdered. Do other people suffer consequences for sin? Absolutely. But you must remember that if you are committed to Christ that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus (Roman 8:1). He paid all of your sin debt. And your son's. That is why the last word He said on the cross was It is finished (John 19:30). The Greek comes from tetelstai which is an accounting term meaning paid in full. Our sin debt was paid in full by His death. We are truly free now. That is what Jesus meant in John 8:32. I prayed for you last night when I read this post and will continue to.
And one last thing I would like to encourage you with is that God knows what it feels like to lose a son also. He knows how you feel and your pain. Go to Him and ask Him for rest (Matt 11:28-30).
