Help me cope with this pain!

From a person I know who had to deal with similar situation, he recommended in addition to all the previous ideas to get with a professional therapist who specializes in loss/grief. The have critical knowledge. They will also get you contacts for support groups with others who are processing through a significant loss.
 
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After having 2 children ages 4yrs and a 3mo old. I could not imagine the pain you are going through. I know im not the only person here to shed a tear while reading this post, but your strength in the Lord will help cope with this pain.

Im going to pray for you now.

Dear Heavenly Father,
I pray that you will comfort Jose and his family. I pray that you give them the strength to carry on with their lives and not have any hatred in their hearts for losing such a precious soul on this earth. We know its temporary that Joseph is separated from his mother/father and loved ones and that we will, as believers, get to meet Joseph when the time comes for us to be with You. I pray that the grieving and pain is swift for Joseph's loved ones and pray that the family can find comfort in You. You created Joseph and have plans for him that we may not understand, but we know that you are the All Mighty God and Your plans with Joseph are greater than any one person on earth can have plans for. In Your Sons name we pray Amen.
 
Sorry to hear of the loss of your baby,they are the special ones. As with all the heartaches we experience you will get through this terrible one it will take time though. Stay strong and comfort each other.
 
Thoughts and prayers to you and yours...hang in there...Mike
 
TurboSlacker said:
From a person I know who had to deal with similar situation, he recommended in addition to all the previous ideas to get with a professional therapist who specializes in loss/grief. The have critical knowledge. They will also get you contacts for support groups with others who are processing through a significant loss.
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Great advice. My best friend went through the exact same scenario as you. Things like this do a number on marriages as well. Wishing you the best
 
TurboSlacker said:
From a person I know who had to deal with similar situation, he recommended in addition to all the previous ideas to get with a professional therapist who specializes in loss/grief. The have critical knowledge. They will also get you contacts for support groups with others who are processing through a significant loss.
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Great advice. My best friend went through the exact same scenario as you. Things like this do a number on marriages as well. Wishing you the best
 
Thank you guys for all of your kind words. It really is helping. I am still suffering though and I hope I can get through this. I have had a few anxiety attacks and have continued being emotionally wrecked. I have an appointment with my doctor on Monday and hopefully they can help or point me in the right direction. The pain I feel shows the love I have for him. I'm afraid that if my pain goes away the love won't be as strong. I keep blaming myself because all of my sins and bad I may have done in my past has led me down to losing my child. I am not perfect nor claim to be and I feel I am a good man with a good heart but I haven't lived the most noble of lives. I have sinned many many times and I feel as if this is my punishment. I would not wish this pain on anyone. All I can do is to try to do right by my son and try to live a better life.


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Nothing we could say will change your pain. It hurts to read this and we feel for you.

I don't think you coping with your pain and getting through this will ever lessen your feelings for him. Cherish the moments you spent with him and know he felt the love albeit for just a short time.

Do not blame your past on the path of the present and future.

Our thoughts are with you, stay up. Get on here and post when you are down.
 
I did not expect when I opened this thread to have a lump in my throat tears
In my eyes and a knot in my gut but i do.
You now know what true love is & that will never end, not everyone does. I feel for you.
 
Death is only painful to those that remain behind.

My older brother said to me after a devastating loss of someone in my life "Time will eventually lessen the pain, never completely, but enough to let you cope. The most difficult part is, it takes time for time to lessen the pain."

I didn't understand his words for the longest time, but what he said is true.

Stay as strong as you are able.

Prayers sent.
 
My wife was sitting next to me when I opened this thread, I said to her, "This guy have scratched his car or something". Did not expect what came next. I'm truly sorry to hear of your loss. It should give us all pause, our cars are insignificant material things. So sorry . . .
 
From a guy who has experienced a lot of loss… I am truly sorry. My prayers are with you and your family. I still tear up when i think of my mom, and that was over 24 years ago. The pain never goes – but like mentioned, you will work through it and know that your baby is always with you. Be strong brother.


aaron
 
Great to hear you are getting with your doctor soon. They will get you with the right specialists soon. Keep focusing on getting through one day at a time. You will make it thru this incredibly trying time. You are already a better person because of your Son!
 
So sorry for your loss. Sending prayers. Don't be afraid to speak to a pro to help you through this.


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I keep blaming myself because all of my sins and bad I may have done in my past has led me down to losing my child. I am not perfect nor claim to be and I feel I am a good man with a good heart but I haven't lived the most noble of lives. I have sinned many many times and I feel as if this is my punishment. I would not wish this pain on anyone. All I can do is to try to do right by my son and try to live a better life.


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Don't blame yourself for something that has happened to the so-called "best" of people. None of us have led perfect lives and if you are dwelling on your past as the reason for it, you will keep getting sucked into the anxiety. Sounds to me like you made the perfect child and he was just too damn good for this wretched earth and God knew it too. You should focus on that. If the good die young, your son was about as perfect as there ever was. And you don't have to look too far around the earth to realize he's in a better place.

You have my sincere condolences.
 
God does not punish us for our sins by taking someone we love , Like many others have said ,God had a plan for your baby ,may time sway your anguish ,and your heart remembers the time you had with a smile ,God Bless you and youre family . Be strong for your wife ,be strong for yourself ,You will be together again , God is holding your baby in his protective arms . My heart goes out to you and yours
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. Keep your head and keep talking to us.
I may know of something that may ease your pain. Cranio-Sacral Therapy. Check out Upledger Cranio-Sacral Therapy. CST is good for so many things. It is our core body system, encapsulating the brain and spinal cord.
While it's discovery was somewhat incidental, one of it's immediate "benefits" was for chronic headaches.
It is also excellent for "somato emotional release". It will help turn the"voice's" in your head that are guilt tripping you down to a tolerable level.
You didn't "do" anything to cause your Angel's death.
I practice CST because I had cluster headaches, and the Physical Therapist that my Mom turned me onto fixed them. That got me seriously turned on to the work.
This in no way compares to a child's death, but after the headaches went away, my girlfriend of a few years broke up with me. She was bad about it too, sending me pics of her and her new boyfriend in fragro delicante.
I went in and saw David (the PT) and told him I'm sorry to waste your time like this, but my heart is broken and her voice is screaming at me at about an 11.
After 30 minutes on the table, I could still hear her, but the volume was down to about 2. I then proceeded to spend about 50K to learn what this healing is all about, and to be able to legally (put my hands on someone) and put it into practice. I'm now known as the headache killer and the heartbreak fixer. However it's God's healing touch through my hands and nothing that I am doing , other then getting out of God's way.
I'm so leery of putting this out on a public board, but your pain touched me, and I couldn't not respond. God Bless you and Family. If you go to Dr. Upledgers website, look under "find a therapist". This can be done with no drugs, no dialog, and it may help
Peace to You
 
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