tomcatturbo
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- Dec 6, 2005
Hi All, Living Wills, Trusts, Life and Death. Please tell me your opinions and if you have stories of your own, feel free to share. I am just devastated by recent events in my and my wife's life.... thanks so much in advance.
Here's my Wife's recent dilemma.
My wife's Mother who was married (high school sweethearts) for 54 Years, just recently passed away. Bless her heart, she passed from a lifetime battle of cancer at the age of 72 Years Old on her Birthday, October 7th 2008. Yes she passed away home in her own bed, on her Birthday.She was a really good, sweet woman, caretaker, and family patriarch.
A month and a week later, we had a funeral for her, and she was cremated, dust in a pretty, little bronze box. It was November 15th, and a sad day for all our family.
Literally, my Father in Law, or my wife's Dad seemed devastated by the loss. He was married for 54 years, and could hardly think of moving on. He even went to his attorney got all his Wills and Trusts in order and told my wife, he feels like jumping off a bridge. He was so sad... However-
New Years Eve, December 31st,, everthing changed. He went to a party where there's seniors, and met the love of his life! Literally, 2 weeks later, he planned a short 3 day vacation to the Keys during Martin Luther King weekend.
He called my Wife up a couple of days ago- January 20th to tell my wife he's engaged to be Married! ....What???
He called to tell my wife on January 21st Inauguration Day, that he bought a big diamond, is getting engaged, and that he plans to change his trust and living wills to include this person whom he met and knows for only 3 weeks. He's worth roughly 1/2 million dollars. He say's he's old school, and doesn't believe in protecting his assets, or keeping what's his (and my wife's Mom of 54 years together, very happily married). He's going to just put eveything together with this woman's assets. Problem is, he's going in all the way, and God only knows what this new "woman has in mind".
My wifes father I feel is out of touch. No Prenuptial agreements, nothing. This woman is 67 years old, has a lot of kids from 2 marriages, and now wants to sell her home (which is paid for) and shell out the money to the kids of her husband who recently passed away from a heart attack at 83 years old, and go to live in the Condo in Clearwater with my Father in Law, or Wifes Father. He had previously promised his children the condo (My wife and her 3 brothers), but this is all going to change very soon. Also, he believes that if he dies, then she gets it all, and his prior Wills/Trusts, and executors, are null and void.
Bottom Line:
My Wife will get nothing if her Father passes away now
If they get Divorced, then he's going to have to split all he owns 50/50
I have a headache for 2 days now, since hearing all about this. How can anyone work hard their whole lifetime, grieve hard for a couple weeks, and then decide to sign over everything to someone else's (in this case a stranger whom we haven't even physically met yet), life and their sons???
By the way, the new woman's son is an attorney.... nice. And not trying to say anything against lawyers or attorneys, but this seems so convenient.
Does this just seem wrong?? Help...
Here's my Wife's recent dilemma.
My wife's Mother who was married (high school sweethearts) for 54 Years, just recently passed away. Bless her heart, she passed from a lifetime battle of cancer at the age of 72 Years Old on her Birthday, October 7th 2008. Yes she passed away home in her own bed, on her Birthday.She was a really good, sweet woman, caretaker, and family patriarch.
A month and a week later, we had a funeral for her, and she was cremated, dust in a pretty, little bronze box. It was November 15th, and a sad day for all our family.
Literally, my Father in Law, or my wife's Dad seemed devastated by the loss. He was married for 54 years, and could hardly think of moving on. He even went to his attorney got all his Wills and Trusts in order and told my wife, he feels like jumping off a bridge. He was so sad... However-
New Years Eve, December 31st,, everthing changed. He went to a party where there's seniors, and met the love of his life! Literally, 2 weeks later, he planned a short 3 day vacation to the Keys during Martin Luther King weekend.
He called my Wife up a couple of days ago- January 20th to tell my wife he's engaged to be Married! ....What???
He called to tell my wife on January 21st Inauguration Day, that he bought a big diamond, is getting engaged, and that he plans to change his trust and living wills to include this person whom he met and knows for only 3 weeks. He's worth roughly 1/2 million dollars. He say's he's old school, and doesn't believe in protecting his assets, or keeping what's his (and my wife's Mom of 54 years together, very happily married). He's going to just put eveything together with this woman's assets. Problem is, he's going in all the way, and God only knows what this new "woman has in mind".
My wifes father I feel is out of touch. No Prenuptial agreements, nothing. This woman is 67 years old, has a lot of kids from 2 marriages, and now wants to sell her home (which is paid for) and shell out the money to the kids of her husband who recently passed away from a heart attack at 83 years old, and go to live in the Condo in Clearwater with my Father in Law, or Wifes Father. He had previously promised his children the condo (My wife and her 3 brothers), but this is all going to change very soon. Also, he believes that if he dies, then she gets it all, and his prior Wills/Trusts, and executors, are null and void.
Bottom Line:
My Wife will get nothing if her Father passes away now
If they get Divorced, then he's going to have to split all he owns 50/50
I have a headache for 2 days now, since hearing all about this. How can anyone work hard their whole lifetime, grieve hard for a couple weeks, and then decide to sign over everything to someone else's (in this case a stranger whom we haven't even physically met yet), life and their sons???
By the way, the new woman's son is an attorney.... nice. And not trying to say anything against lawyers or attorneys, but this seems so convenient.
Does this just seem wrong?? Help...