It's been EXTREMELY HARD to sort all this out, especially with limited time available (with everything else going on here). The message boards can be helpful, but have to be taken into context of who is posting there & what their intent is. Plus, if there are 2x the Fords out there, you should expect 2x the posts with issues.
I got feedback from previous owners as well, but hard to figure in. Most problems with ALL the brands have been solved or improved. Can't compare cold start issues from a pre-'02 truck & todays trucks. Same with trans & turbo's, etc. Seems like you just have to pick one & deal with it & take your chances. Don't overload it & do mainenance regularly or sooner. From my past experience & TB experience, you have to wait for OIL temp to get up there before loading or full throttle. If not, expect bearing/engine issues sooner than necessary.
As for us, my neck seems to be VERY sensitive to certain kinds of vibrations & bumps. What one person would say was a super ride, may not work for me. Here is what we came up with:
Looking at crew cabs only, that's what fit's our use year round.
1500- 5.3 - ride was great & didn't bother me at all. Bed seemed REALLY small, storage in rear seat was great, power was fine for towing if it has the 4.1 gear. Don't think it would give up any mpg on city (might improve it), but hwy unloaded may suffer 1-2. Towing would improve, and trans wouldn't shift in/out as often. Z-71 & reg suspension rode fine. Average $27-28k with setups available.
2500 - duramax - ride was smooth, but most in-town bumps sent a vibration right to my neck & couldn't deal with it. Tried a couple, but just couldn't take it. Power was great, build seemed great, be supurb for anyone else. Only down side we found, on 90-93 degree day, with it running for 15 min before we got in (with air on) and after driving for 30 min with air on max, vents concentrating on rear seats, my bud was sweating back there. Average $36-40k. For xtra $$, you get a LOT more truck.
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F-150 - 5.4 - Motor feels WAY more powerful than Chevy, has a ton more low end. The chevy has more up high, but going by the numbers, the ford 5.4 is about the same as chevy 6.0. Higher tech 3 valve w/variable iming & intake runners etc. Inside, build, looks, etc all excellent. Rear seat storage was a bit less than 1500, but OK. Needed the 3.73 min to get towing done, 3.42 was a dog. With all the buzz, it should have rode like a dream. It unfortunately was a bit harsh for me. Worse than 2500, bugged me 1 min down the road. Built almost too stiff & good IMO. Most others would be fine with it, just gets me where it hurts. Air was awesome.
F-250 SD 6.0 turbo diesel- Rode (for me) better than all the others. Actually couldn't believe the difference, wasn't even going to try it in the beginning. By the "book" it should have been worse than the rest. With the FX4 pkg though, it was way more harsh though. The 6.0 was comparable (more/less unsure) than duramax, and trans seemed to shift better than allison. It was in-between shifts & recovered faster. I assume they have the power cut-out on both brands to help save trans life. Motor is WAY more noisy than duramax, but inside it was fine. Duramax made some noise & was less muffled inside when getting on it. Idle = duramax better noise, pulling down hwy windows up = ford better IMO. Inside storage was setup nice & plenty of it. Sits a little higher & feels more like a monster truck until you get used to it. Numbers don't show it, but the feel is there. Air was awesome. Price $35-38k
Didn't really consider Dodges because not as partial to them, didn't have ANY good (local friends/family) experience with them, and local dealers suck on them. Seems build is not as good, but cummins is hard to beat. Seen many with high miles going fast. Some new hemi 1/2 tons look cool with added effects, but not really for me. Gettin old I guess
So, it was either 1500 & not really be able to pull big trailer with car/display/parts etc, but have less payt/maintenance/fuel costs/parking problems, -- OR -- get the F-250 diesel & have basically the opposite.
We had our Expedition 5.4 for 7 years now, and overall loved it. Wish it had a bit more power, but plenty for what it was designed for. Just couldn't pass towing or lug the hills as good as I would like. Seems like the 250/2500 diesels hold their value MUCH better too. So, figuring we will have this vehicle for 5-10 more years, and hopes of racing a car sometime in the future, we went with the F-250. If it weren't for my neck, I think I would have got the duramax, but just couldn't do it. Deb thinks I think too much, but have to make sure it's the best way to go on a purchase (payt) like this.
A HUGE THANKS FOR ALL THE INPUT/HELP here !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then came trying to find color preference & such, without being too picky. All trucks are selling like hotcakes, hard to find anything. We actually searched for dealer trades within 600 miles with 2 dealerships. Finally went to third one (with friends cousin there) and did our own search, dropped a couple preferences, and found one 260 miles away. With no dealer trades going on now, we did the deal yesterday over the phone, and picking it up Mon. Kinda scary without actually seeing it or riding in exact truck, but should be fine based on what we tested out locally. Pull anyone off any toilet (that was funny cwelk87gn), and take the house with it. I am sure it's more than I need for now, but be good for future use too. Might actually do m neck some good over my expedition, but time will tell. Deb didn't have any issues driving either "big" truck, but wouldn't want the long bed AND crew cab. Got fingers crossed until it's in my driveway (especially since sale is off Mon), just got to sell exp now. None would give much for it in trade, they got WAY too many trades right now. They would advertise it on their lot for $13,500, but wouldn't give more than 7k for it. It should be worth 8500-10500 without a problem. Hate to see it go, but need the truck bed more & more lately, for skids/crates of parts (n-stuff)
THANKS again! Hope something here helps others looking.