I think what PT&E was trying to tell you is that the turbine side is a bit small rather than the compressor side. The T-72 map I looked at seemed to be a pretty good size for the boost levels you're running, presuming you aren't revving it up over 6k or so. Once you get this thing all lined out and start pushing it I can see the need for more, but not right now.
I wish there was more information available about the turbine wheels and housings, I have no idea if a P trim or a Q trim is adequate, borderline, oversized, or anything.
Just have to trust them on this one I guess. The fact that they only hook a Q trim up to a 72 is an indication that it is a better match to that compressor than the P trim though.
It does sound like your backpressure is a bit high for some reason or another. If it is due to the turbine wheel size and turbine housing, then upgrading will be your answer. Maybe they can upgrade your turbine wheel and housing and keep your existing compressor wheel and housing? Might save you a few $$$ if they can.
A restriction in the intake could cause this to happen. Suppose your intercooler had a 10 psi drop. Then to make 19 psi at the intake (which is what your boost gauge and MAP sensor would be seeing) you would have to have 29 psi at the compressor outlet. It requires a lot of hp to make that much boost, and the more hp the turbine has to supply to the compressor the higher the exhaust backpressure has to be. That would lead to the big imbalance between the MAP and the exhaust backpressure that you are seeing.
When you checked your backpressure at 19 psi, was this with or without the IC in place? I remember you made some runs previously without the IC in place.
John