I just with through this with my THDP and TA60. I had a machine shop resurface my THDP with a belt sander, then they recommended using a stone to make sure the turbo flange was straight. Picked one up from Ace hardware and worked the face of the turbo and kept bolting up the downpipe and checking gaps with a feeler gauge. Ended up with a small area at the very bottom where I could only fit a .003 feeler gauge. Put a smear of ultra copper on both the turbo and downpipe mating surfaces and no leaks since. This problem drove me crazy. Tried a composite gasket and got bad turbo lag because the wastegate puck couldn't seal flush, then tried a copper gasket and it pulled the threads out of a turbo bolt hole before it would compress, then had to helicoil it.