Sorry to hear of your loss Doug (and others) and wish you & your families the best thru all this. It is never easy, but it's a part of life none of us can ignore. I hope there are friends & relatives close by to ease the pain.
My best friend from waaay back is going thru a hard time too. He is closer to his mom than anyone I have ever met. She has been degrading health-wise for years & is getting real bad lately. She has been in & out of the hospital a lot lately, and they recommended a nursing home last week. Well, unless you are loaded or have super health care, you don't want to know what's out there. In a well recommended & nice facility, we found there is one floor for the paying customers, and a completely different floor for the medicare patients. She was quickly taken from there & is now being cared for at home. I just heard an hour ago that she fell again last night and is in the hospital again & they are keeping her for a while. They know of some health issues that cause her problems, but nothing to explain how bad she is now. I guess that's why they call it a medical "practice"
My wife is a nurse, and I see all the good they do, but I really hate the medical profession and insurance/medicare people for what goes on "behind the scenes". Oh well, my anger there won't make anything better.
Unfortunately, I don't think his mom is going to be with us much longer, and it will devistate him. I just hope I (and others) can be there for him when he needs it the most. He will kick himself hard for never taking her on a cruise or to Hawaii like he wanted to.
My dad gave us a scare a while back too, and it has prepped me a little for the bad times to come. Make sure you tell everyone how much you love them & how much they mean to you every chance you get. If you don't have anything good to say, well, keep it to yourself. All the little things go a long way, and we all want to feel loved & special.
The best thing anyone can say when losing a friend or loved one is,
They lived a good life and were truly happy and loved, and will be missed by many.
Don't let regrets ruin it for you, there is never enough time to do or say ALL the things we want to. Just do what you can & the best you can, and know that should be good enough for anyone, including ourselves.
Hope something there eased some of the pain & wish the best for all.